I've been thinking a lot lately about the veracity of long-term relationships and marriage. I'm starting to believe I'll never know what to believe. Or do."Scientists speculate that your level of commitment may depend on how much a partner enhances your life and broadens your horizons — a concept that Arthur Aron, a psychologist and relationship researcher at Stony Brook University, calls "self-expansion."
"To measure this quality, couples are asked a series of questions: How much does your partner provide a source of exciting experiences? How much has knowing your partner made you a better person? How much do you see your partner as a way to expand your own capabilities?"
Read more on the so-called Science of a Happy Marriage.
Does your lover make your life better?
Art by Stuart Bradford
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Simple question (replacing an earlier screed that melted down on its way through the Interwebz): If a lover doesn't make your life better, show you new horizons and help you reach your own horizons, why the hell would you think them qualified to be a lover?
Likewise, if you don't do the same for them, you're not going to be a worthwhile lover....
Disclaimer: This is a general comment, not aimed at any individual. Except, maybe, an ex-lover or five in my own life....
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